The boxes my IVF medications arrived in were daunting enough. One filled with ice packs, delivered by a courier straight to my midday meeting downtown. The others bulging with packing materials, instructions, 100s of syringes, alcohol wipes, vaginal suppositories and vials for mixing and shaking. Refrigerate this one, store this one in the dark. It … More IVF Tips for Real Life
They say you have you first baby for you, and the second one to teach your first one how to share—toys, the backseat and of course, love. Being that my wife and I both have brothers we adore, we knew we wanted to give our daughter that same indescribable bond. But now that I’m officially … More Baby #2: Double the trouble, double the fun?
November 1, 2017 My Dear Aria, You just turned 12 weeks old and my FMLA maternity leave and job protection have officially ended. I am now supposed to be both physically healed and sufficiently bonded with you to leave you with a stranger for 10 to 12 hours a day. And that sounds absolutely horrible. … More A love letter to my 12-week-old daughter
At 38 weeks pregnant, I feel like I am in the home stretch and it’s finally fair to have an opinion about this amazing, humbling, and sometimes gross process of making another human. Pregnancy is no doubt different for everyone, but for me it has been pretty easy. That said, unlike some other women, … More Pregnancy: I promise it’s not that scary
One of the advantages of waiting until later in life to have a baby is that you’ve had longer to find amazing friends who are not only ridiculously generous, but all-round wonderful people. Because Julie and I both work in advertising, our friends asked for a creative brief before concepting our Baby #Betterscott shower. Here’s … More A Baby Shower Worth Bragging About
My wife Julie is the most generous partner I could ask for, but even she outdid herself when we were expecting. So whether you are straight or gay, man or woman, take note of some amazing things my wife did while I was moodier, hungrier and bigger than ever before: Preggy pack o’ snacks: During … More Why every pregnant woman needs a wife
It’s inauguration day of our 45th President and I am sick to my stomach. My wife and many of my dearest friends are in Washington DC and tomorrow, will march for women, for diversity, for health care, and for me. My coworkers in Chicago are making signs, printing shirts and knitting pink hats preparing to take … More How to march toward hope without leaving your house
Bloggers: resist the urge to log on to in-flight wifi. … More How in-flight wifi ruined air travel
Julie and I have been together almost four years, but up until this year we had never celebrated Pride together in Chicago. So we readied our livers, dug through our closets for gobs of glitter and beads, and had my amazing out-of-towner cousin in tow so we couldn’t phone it in. This Pride was going … More Gay big or stay home: 48 Hours of Gay Pride Chicago
I came out when I was 34. Unlike so many of my fellow LGBTQ brothers and sisters, I was not thrown in a locker in high school for liking girls. I was not called a dyke or a faggot when I was 15. I wasn’t spit on, bullied, or worse. But I know what it … More What gay feels like today
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